Venting My Frustration with the Male Gender

September 13, 2010

Please don't bother reading this unless you are prepared for a rant. That is my only disclaimer. This is necessary for my sanity right now-a purging, of sorts, to clear my mind. Writing is the best and healthiest way I know of to deal with minor frustrations like this so here it goes.

I am just so annoyed with being the best friend who gets to sit and listen to my guy friends describe the "perfect girl" whose criterion I apparently just don't live up to. I'm sick of sitting at a table of guys who can't stop staring at/talking about the "hot girl" walking by [who they have never spoken to and know nothing about, I might add]. They say things like " I'm gonna marry that girl" when in reality they will never get up the courage to even so much as speak to said girl. I hate sitting through this and feeling like I will never be good enough to be that girl. I don't know what it is exactly that I am lacking. I am apparently forever consigned to the "friend zone". Don't get me wrong-I love my guy friends. They are a lot of fun and I wouldn't trade them for the world. It's not even that I am particularly interested in dating them. It's just that sometimes I wonder how on earth they can be so dense! I'm sure I speak for many girls out there when I express this exasperation with the male gender. How is it that they don't understand how hard and painful it is to constantly be inadvertently compared to all the girls that we will never live up to: these girls with super model bodies, perfect hair and makeup, cute clothes, and whatever else it is that guys are so struck by. I understand that guys look at, think about, and talk about girls that they are interested in. There is nothing wrong with that. I do the same thing regarding guys, but not in front of other guys. I save that kind of talk for girls’ nights, etc. I know guys think differently than girls, but I just feel like it is common courtesy not to talk about other girls in front of girls, or ask a girl to introduce you to her hot friends. It's just a little insulting. It's like saying the girl sitting in front of you is not good enough, or not valuable in her own right. Maybe I am alone in this feeling, but it is how I feel nonetheless. I just needed to put that out there. Rant over. kthxbai